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Why social media and co-parenting aren’t a great combination

On Behalf of | Feb 7, 2024 | Child Custody |

In recent years, social media has transformed the ways in which co-parents communicate, share and connect with each other. Most of the time, digital communication enhances co-parenting arrangements, as it allows co-parents to communicate directly without having to engage in face-to-face or telephonic discussion. However, the intersection of social media and co-parenting often proves to be fraught with challenges, potentially complicating an already delicate dynamic.

When not approached thoughtfully, using these platforms – for co-parenting communication or simply for everyday sharing of personal and family activities  – can create or exacerbate tensions. It can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts that are counterproductive to effective co-parenting.

How can posts become an issue for co-parents?

Social media creates a public forum where private family matters can become public knowledge. Co-parents may share photos, updates or comments about their children or parenting experiences, sometimes crossing boundaries of privacy and/or mutual agreement. What one parent perceives as a harmless post, the other may view as an invasion of privacy or an overstep. This can lead to friction and disagreement. Additionally, the permanence and visibility of social media content can become problems under certain circumstances. Once it’s shared, content – even if it is later deleted – never really disappears completely.

Social media is also notorious for its lack of context and tone, making it easy for messages to be misinterpreted. A comment intended as light-hearted or supportive can be taken out of context, leading to unnecessary conflicts. This communication breakdown can undermine the trust and respect necessary for co-parents to work together effectively.

Finally, social media also offers a platform for venting frustrations or airing grievances, which can be particularly tempting during moments of tension. However, posting negative comments or indirect jabs about one’s co-parent not only harms the co-parenting relationship but can also affect children caught in the middle.

While social media platforms can help families stay connected across homes, they can be used – intentionally or unintentionally – for harm. Approaching these platforms thoughtfully, therefore, is necessary for co-parents who want to keep their relationships healthy, civil and productive.